Unsure

Ok, so I've been "dating" a new girl for the last month. She's a sweet girl, and I'm really enjoying the time spent with her. What I'm finding is that it is raising some feelings that I'm not sure how to deal with. Granted, again this has only been a month. Most recently I've started to feel certain things, wanting to feel some sense of assurance. This is all erased when we meet up and hangout and enjoy each other's company.

I have learned a lot and have been able to put to practice many of the things that counseling has provided. That has been truly helpful.

We haven't made anything "exclusive", and I'm not rushing in to things. I've gotten the sense that the feelings are mutual. We both like each other a lot. We've got things in common.

I get the feeling that maybe those words are right around the corner. You know which ones I'm talking about. Would I accept it? Sure. Would I reciprocate? Not sure.

I never say those words, until I feel and know that it's what I'm feeling. The problem would be, how to let her down gently. She really is a sweet girl. A girl that has been in controlling relationships, and that is used to being mistreated. Wow...that's a new one.

Because we haven't made a move towards exclusivity, no boundaries have been set. I'm pretty sure at this point, what we've been doing the last month has cemented the idea that we're a couple. However there is one thing that I am not comfortable with.

Here's the "but". She has a friend that she is close with. Close as in there's a physical curiousity, between the two. I have seen them kiss in public, and I wasn't sure how it made me feel, until after the fact. I didn't like it.

This last week I asked her what the deal was between her and the friend, and she said that they had only kissed and fondled parts upstairs, never went the full route. Most recently, we were in a jacuzzi scenario, and her friend pulled her in close. I wasn't keen about it. This is where it leaves me questioning things. Her friend is actively dating other guys at this time, so I feel a little uncomfortable about why she's doing this.

I did approach her about it, and it visibly made her uncomfortable, in talking about it. I dropped it because of that, and changed the subject. If/when the exclusivity talk comes in to play, this is a boundary that I need to set.

The girl digs me, and I dig her too. Why add this to the mix?